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Find being a breadwinner wife difficult? Here are some insights that might help you.

Are you a breadwinner wife? Here are some tips for you

A breadwinner has been a very coveted title and has mostly belonged to the 'Man of the House'  since traditional times. Now that the times have changed, women are not only equal to the men in the work sector but also ahead in many scenarios. Although that sounds like great news, there are many conflicts that come with it. A man being a breadwinner is the expected norm of society and when that dynamic is challenged by a woman, society is bound to react. A woman should, however, remember that it’s a great thing to be a breadwinner.

Here are some of the ways to rock the breadwinner tag without bearing its conflicts:

1. Be unapologetic but considerate

Being a breadwinner is an achievement and there are no two ways about it. It’s something one must be proud of as it requires a great amount of hard work. When a woman starts apologising for her achievements, she stops being the person she is. This not only dulls her fierce personality but also the entire relationship she shares with her husband.  When you are happy, the relationship naturally flourishes. Apart from that, why shrink your achievements for someone’s insecurity?

Also, being unapologetic doesn’t mean rubbing your achievements in someone’s face. One can be kind, inspiring and considerate along with being unapologetic. A breadwinner wife should have an attitude of sharing her happiness with her husband and keeping the relationship positive.

2. Don’t be bossy

Nobody likes to mindlessly obey orders and being treated subordinate. We have all been in a situation where our bosses drove us crazy. There is a difference between making decisions together and thrusting decisions onto each other. When you don’t give a say to your partner in financial and other decisions, conflicts are bound to arise. 

Instead, why not make it a partnership and discuss everything before making important financial decisions? This has two advantages. First, the partner feels respected. Second, your relationship with them strengthens and you can always bear the consequences together.

3. Be open and communicate

Misunderstandings and fights breed on lack of clarity. The most important thing that keeps any relationship going is communication. Marriage is a very respected institution and thus as a breadwinner, you must always strive to be as open as possible while communicating. 

You and your partner should always communicate about the things that hurt, things that were misunderstood, things that can be improved. Talking is the only way of solving a complication. As a breadwinner wife, if you succeed in clearly communicating about your intentions to your husband, half of the potential conflicts might never arise.

Conclusion:

Being a breadwinner wife is a responsibility and an honour and that’s exactly how it should be treated. Both the husband and the wife must look at that title with respect and pride. A relationship might experience ups and downs but as long as there is clarity and mutual respect regarding the title, all the consequences can be borne together. Here are 6 ways on how full-time moms can beat stress to maintain a work-life balance. 

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